Wedding advice five things every father of the bride should consider and some just think about

 THE FIVE MOST IMPORTANT  THINGS FATHERS OF THE BRIDE NEED TO CONSIDER….and some other information designed to put you at ease that crosssed my mind…

Right away I’m going to abandon a third person  pint of view given the fact that my daughter got married  this past Saturday and this two-part entry  is of course influenced by recent personal events and observations.  So my stream of consciousness  has very recently bubbled over the rocks of reality so to speak.  Having said this  here we go.  

The Top Five  Things To think About

The top five things for the Father of the Bride to ponder are not arranged in order of importance as the wedding experience mandates that these knowable pieces of wisdom  rise and fall in importance  depending on what’s happening.  

These are simply Five Keys to  Being the Best Father of The Bride at the Wedding

1. Enter The Wedding Event With Gratitude

First, there are all kinds of approaches to the wedding event, thousands of wedding books, wedding planners with years of experience lurk around almost every  corner, and the internet.  Couple this with the fact that your primary function  is to walk a person  down the aisle in a straight  line so that there will be no one complaining that “dear why can’t you just stop and ask someone for directions?”. The only real threat to your manhood is that some other person  is now going to be  providing love and shelter  as the primary source—officially even.   However, why gratitude?  Well unless the wedding planner. Or your wife and daughter use the Guinness book. Of World  Records  to plan you won’t really be expected to keep up with the “jones’ wedding”  After all you won’t be expected to pay  just north of 44 million dollars  in order to have the most expensive  wedding ever.  You won’t be pulling the gold fillings from your teeth to pay for a 12.2 million dollar wedding dress.  While the wedding will probably require more than a box of ding dongs or cupcakes and a fist full of twinkies the likelihood that someone will wheel in a 300 pound, eight foot tall sugar super structure is pretty low.  The reality. Is that most weddings borrow some ideas from other  weddings, however, there seems to be  a calling to make one’s wedding a unique  historic event.   

This leads to the second thing to remember and something to be thankful for…

2.Each wedding event has something  go differently from what was planned or imagined.

Perfection is never possible  when it comes to weddings  so if you can deal with the nagging control you have, then you can always  claim”this went great… even a little better than you expected.”  You also don’t have to look around to assign blame when something goes  wrong because it’s not your self-appointed  duty  to boss people around and get everything “just right.”   Now if you trip…or worse trip your  daughter going down the aisle, stop to check the football scores on your phone, or insist on wearing your Bud-Light  bandana  instead of a tie…you are going to get a few frowns.  If you race up the aisle  to ask the mother of the groom for her phone number or do the same to one or more of the bride’s maids… that’s over the  line…Even if you  spit out your Skoal on the waiting groom’s shoes…you may lose some cred, however please remember  that things will go wrong and the wedding  is probably still going to be a wonderful expression of love.

3. This is not your show.  

This is the event  for the groom and more so the BRIDE —

Sure you bought a new suit and put on your Sunday underwear, yet you will follow the seating chart, you will walk at the speed you are told, you will smile  for ALL the pictures even if you would applaud aerial  photography with a name plate on everyone’s head as an acceptable  alternative to the traditional wedding  photo poses.  If the Bride says you are having raspberry  wine coolers at the reception then forget  about the 28 keg “Hell’s Angels” shotgun wedding and rally bundle from Big Earl’s  Booze-o-Rama.  If the Bride says you are eating a lime  green tux with a checker board  pattern, you just ask how many checks per inch and whether that glows in the dark?  

Now there’s more to be said about this point in part two and beyond… so let’s give ourselves the time to reflect on  this half and come back tomorrow.  Until then find out who has the rings, what the preacher  is going to say…and words of wisdom  the father of the Bride might  offer the groom