I’m asking for peace and joy part two?

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PART 2:  PEACE AND JOY AND  HOW TO ASK  FOR IT?

WARNING- Much like  yesterday (or whenever  you may have read the first part—thank you for reading it by the way)…. this post contains references to food that may not be liked  by everyone… I am referring to fish today….. and a biblical phrase—I feel qualified to use the  fish as an example as I was raised Catholic and thus have had my share.  I sometimes wonder if there was  a great  deal of pressure on 15th century Catholic  fishermen knowing that  if there was”nothing biting”  on Thursday—it might be seen as a punishment from  the devine or  he or she  was  just going to have a potato and be hungry till Saturday?

Anyway let’s get  back to the topic at hand…….

ASKING FOR  HELP

 Like I mentoned several  rants ago in the first  part of this…askingfor help can be a very  tricky  and anxiety  prompting  endeavor so we need to  look at it a bit… wish brings me to the fish.

I have always  liked the saying

“You can give a man (person) a fish and  that will be food for a day OR YOU CAM TEACH SOMEONE TO FISH AND THEY CAN  EAT FOR A LIFETIME.

Well that gets  right down  to it …

How  to ask for nd offer help.

When asking You can lead  off by saying “Can  you do this  for me?”  That happens a lot and sets up  the whole  yes I can but  now  you owe me..or yes I can  because I’m smarter than  you circumstances  that are  a sandbox for future anxiety laden  thoughts to play in.  

Another alternative is yu can ask “Hey do you  know  how to do this?”  or Y”unless it is something like picking  up a piano—you can ask “hey do you have  time to show me how to  do this?… Or even further you can ask “where can I learn to do  that like you?” 

You see …. you are changing the conversation into a fishing lesson.  

Now  there are some  situations  where this won’t work  like if you  are asking a teenager how  to do something on your phone because they will have  it out of  your hand and finished before  you  even finish the word Instagram.  However.. most the time  approaching it from the “i want to learn” angle will take away a lot of anxiety.   

…and the next time the person  you asked for help needs help they are likely to ask you in the same way  you asked them….so that  is cool.

Well  that  is about enough for today….but I hope it makes  sense.

and  yes there is a little musical segment  below and the final post in  this trilogy  is on asking  and saying no… as a whole  part to the Peace and Joy  puzzle:

Oh and  one last  bit of wisdom  once  shared with  me  as we sat on the bank… and caught nothing for hours… 

“there’s a fine line between fishing and drinking while  you are giving a worm a bath.”