I don’t know the movement and it’s questions

 “I DON’T KNOW”—The Curious  Key to Unlocking. Your Comfort  Zone?

Ok,ay over the next few entries, I will be using the  pronoun I because. Everything said in these. Entries is something I experience or have experienced and has a current way in the way I approach  the present moment.  Like everything. Else  I write here I “believe”  my experience is shared by many——-wait for it—-However—

I DON’T  KNOW 

So... here goes...

You arrive at the hospital with  a friend/spouse/ who is minutes away from  giving birth.  You figure there are only minutes if not seconds to  get  the soon to be  parent to. The delivery room.  Luckily just as you grab a wheelchair from the outside and  rip through the door you see a nurse and ask “Which way to Labor and Delivery?” Now what you don’t know is  that this nurse doesn’t  even work at this hospital, he is an emergency services worker from a life flight. Unit from a  different city.  Now this. Nurse knows where. The emergency.room, cafeteria, and business office are and has never seen any deliveries in those parts of the hospital.  Would. You be angry if he said, “I don’t know?”   What was your expectation in that situation?   

well right now we. Are living in a  strange time of change and there is a lot of  things “I don’t know”.and I don’t know who. Does.  On the other hand as I explore my thoughts and feelings to gain some perspective on this state of affairs I can’t help but see there are choices to be made.  I could  take this uncertainty d as something to be hated and feared and use a lot of energy. Trying to figure out who is to blame for it.  I could  decide  not knowing is my fault because I  missed something somewhere and be afraid I will make other mistakes  so there I sit afraid again and uncertain.  On the other hand—wait  I just. Gave you two other instances so how many hands  do I have?  Well more than two... So anyway another choice I have is to say “I don’t  know—yet but I am curious  about this and then put  tools of discovery into motion.    In short I can choose to live in fear tending to make  a good number of partially ignorant statements or I could  embrace disconvery and ask  many enlightened questions.  

Seeking peace and joy for me means asking the questions.   

Here is my  “I don’t know”. Questions  “starter pack.”  

Question 1.  How many times. Have I wondered about this?   

The more complicated version of this question is:  Why and when do I need to make a choice related to this thing I don’t know?    This boils down to  another simple question—Is knowing about this  important or urgent?   Can you think of things that are important to know at some point, but you don’t need to know them right now?   Conversely are there things like (what’s for dinner?” That have  some urgency but not so much. Importance (you’ll likely eat  again tomorrow.)

I have heard people say that if you have too many urgent  questions, you may not have figured out. What is really important and that makes  some sense to me.   

Question  2.  Is this something I can know?  

So that big jar of jelly beans at the county fair sits there  wanting you to guess “how many?”   Can you watch a video or read a puzzle book and find a way to make a better guess?   sure.. so you can know how to approach this.   However  you can’t know  there are two rolls of toilet paper buried in the jar to make it look like there are more  sticky pieces of candy in there than there really are.   So can you really know?  Maybe not...except if you count you will know so  maybe instead of asking  cant I know—maybe  the question  is “how can I learn about this?”  Then once  you decide to move to  figuring out how to know—then you will come up against the question “do I want to use the energy to know? Or do I really need to know... So that ties right into the question of What is important and what is. Urgent—right?   

A big benefit of  reflecting upon  “Can” is the choice factor... First you get to. Decide. If the reason. You don’t know is. That you can’t or you don’t want to, or someone else really doesn’t want you to know.  So admitting. You don’t know  opens up all these  fabulous learning  opportunities.   final question for today...

Question 3. Why do I (or why should I expect to know?    

I often find. I trip up my peace and joy by not grasping  my expectations.  I can readily say my  family, coworkers, friends, etc.  expect me  to  know so I had better  either know or act like I do.    The sneaky kicker here is ...it’s all my expectation.   You see it is probably the fact that. My friends, family, etc do have expectations, however what falls into my   Realm is not. Their expectations—it’s what I expect to happen if I fail to match their expectations... While I can’t  take responsibility for your expectations, I do think it is possible to take responsibility  for decisions I make  based upon my expectations of what your expectations mean for my experiences.   

Okay That’s enough to bounce out there for  today... 

Tomorrow  more questions and  some thoughts on finding  your curious  tribe.   

What else  am I going to. Do today....I don’t  know.. and I’m proud to say so.