PEACE WEEK PART IV The Case for Pessimism
Here we are on a sunny Saturday during Peace week and not to rain on the parade—actually no parades during. The pandemic so if raindrops are fallin on your. Head please don’t let that mean your eyes will be turnin’ red. Anyway it’s Saturday and during Peace week this blog has featured acronyms for Peace featuring.elephants and chocolate and all types of happy ideas, yet it’s probably. No stretch to think there are some folks out there that are doubtful regarding Purple elephants Causing Everything or the Chocolate Eating can be the key to seeking peace. In fact there are plenty of gracious folks I know that tend toward the pessimistic side on. Most things....well this post is for you—oh and everyone else.
So today’s Acronym?
Pessimism Exits As Creativity , Change, or Compassion enter
Okay I used three C words just because the pessimists almost always. Have three or more standard responses that we’ll look at today. WARNING: YOU HAVE SEEN SOME OF THESE IN THIS BLOG BEFORE
Here comes the pessimists Poem
I tried that before
I don’t have the time
It costs way too much
The words just don’t rhyme
I just don’t see how
friends and neighbors. Will rant
It will be way too hard
I can’t can’t can’t can’t
Everyone. That I know
Will think I’m a nut
Nobody cares how things go
Yes but, but, but, but...
so working backward...Yes But—
So Yes but is the universal block of all ideas that might be stretched into humorous or effective solutions to challenges. When using the yes but block it is possible. To set any. Set of circumstances on the other side. For example: “It’s sunny today. Yes, but it could rain later so we’d better not plan a picnic.” It’s sunny today. Yes but It’s probably. Going to be too windy at the lake so a picnic might be a bad idea. It’s sunny today. Yes but I bet the park will be too crowded to enjoy a picnic.”
So how to avoid this... YES AND! The next time you hear someone stuck in the but mode shift immediately to ther yes and mode. Anytime someone makes a suggestion that has any merit or is a starting point for acting and that’s almost any suggestion—work hard to add to it or modify it by saying “yes I can see that and maybe we could also...
For example.. yep it could rain so we can go. Early and set up near a shelter or grab some unbrellas or yes it could rain and if it does we’ll go on over to the minibrewery up the street if that happens.” You see that strategy means you don’t have to argue about the rain because the weather is going to do what the weather is going to do, but an argument before a picnic — well tha’t no fun.
Yes and invites everyone to add something positive to the conversation and enhance the ideas that have been offered. It ramps up the creativituy. It expands the possibilities and generally. Leaves no one feeling like their ideas go unheard. In short yes and means not raining on anyone’s parade and killing their joy.
I can’t—
How about. Changing that to I haven’t learned how yet... the power of yet is amazing. It also dismisses. Responsibility so if you won’t go with I haven’t. Learned how yet try replacing I ca’t with I won’t if won’t iOS really what you mean. It’s an easier path to peace when you stand behind your values and claim you won’t rather than cutting off possibilities by saying you can’t.. You could even go farther and say I haven’t found anyone to teach me or a way to learn that yet.
The Neighbors. Will rant
First of all...not that many people really care about. Any given thing you might do. Second, if they do care take that a s a compliment because your connection with them means something. If you think something you are going to do might impact someone then maybe. They will help you out and take more ownership in your friendship and how can that be a bad thing....don’t worry about ranting in fact hope for it!
It costs too much...
Well a lot of people know the. Cost of things and yet don’t. Take the time to realize the value of much at all. If you buy a cheap chair and save the 100 dollars this yyear that’s okay, however, three years of sore cheeks and aching back. Later...what’s the real cost? Try to imagine the daily cost or the cost per use for stuff. If it’s something youwon’t use often find someone to share it with. A boat rusts just as fast in your driveway as it does on the water—find a friend and share. Oh and maybe you’ll find out more about that friend and maybe you’ll. Share a snowblower or a four wheeler or a camping space or a garden space, or.... Think of cost as a possible friendship opportunity... Share books, music etc if you feel comfortable... create connections that make thing more fun and cost less.
We tried this. Before...
Well here I go again... Now is not before. The “we” in the room is not the same. The culture and the circumstances have changes. The solution proposed might be the same, yet the target may be slightly different. The purpose may be something new and the time frame may be completely unlike the “past.” Ask any athlete or musician. Sometimes change comes in little increments and trying something something just one more time with just a little more or less force or pace leads to a marvelous outcome. Little changes can make big differences possible or vice versa.. little differences can make big changes possible.
Okay... I’ve said all that to offer this...
We all feel pessimism from time to time—sometimes because uncertainty is hard—sometimes because relationships are difficult to negotiate ,—sometimes because we believe that no one else will defend us so we have to go on defense first. Unfortunately this so often like not jumping high enough because we are afraid of falling which guarantees rarely getting high enough to reach much at all. So give someone else a boost and they. Will likely give you a boost or send a rope down....that’s compassion... change one small variable and. Like a cosmic Chenga many pieces may shift into a whole new configuration...
Well it’s sunny today... and maybe I’ll have a picnic.
Perhaps Every Ant Can Eat—LOL
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