From why me to why not?

FINDING THE QUESTIONS TO THE ANSWERS YOU  MIGHT HAVE

It’s been  said that  if you do the same things in the same way expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. On the  other hand, I sometimes wonder if we do the same things in the same ways to build a positive habit are we putting the building blocks for  al little insanity in place?  Maybe that’s why experimenting  with change is not a bad idea.   

So here’s  where this sort of leads.... We all have ways of thinking about problems/challenges and solving problems.  We often.develop patterns. Of behaviors when we are. In the company of certain. Groups of people and that works—-until it doesn’t and then what?   

Let’s  use an example that  could happen.   You are  two days away from pay day and  you are getting.ready for work.  Because you. Are in a hurry, you have decided that getting dressed quickly is your best  course of action.  You find your clothes and put them on.  You know your favorite socks to wear with this outfit are  in the dryer.  You open the dryer and find  one of the socks fairly easily, but as you all know there are  sock eating trolls built into all major  washer and dryer brands and the other sock is not  anywhere to be found.  You run to your dresser grab the second best pair and  put them on.  You are now a minute further behind.  You grab your shoes, jam them on your feet and start tying .  You’ve tied your shoes a bazillion  times so you start thinking about  heading out for work—until—-pulling the last rabbit ear and you hear a small  pop that signals the breaking of that shoe string.  Now you have to  either tie this string together somehow or find a different  footwear option.  You are getting a little frustrated.  You head out the door and head your  Volvo to work, when that little man carrying a gas can comes on dashboard fuel meter.  Luckily you make it to the Speedy Mart and  get enough gas to get through  the week, however, as you pull the nozzle  from your. Gas tank, a little left over fuel spills out right onto your freshly repaired shoes.  By the time you are climbing into the car you are asking yourself “why me?

Now maybe this exact sequence hasn’t happened to you, so substitute finding a small stain on your favorite shirt, spilling your “drive-through” coffee, getting a flat tire, or a toothache etc and bingo we’ve all had that day happen to us right?  

Now  of course Mr. Spoc would  tell you it was just a matter of chance that these things happened to you and that there was no conspiracy.  After all, we all lose socks in the dryer.  Reebok did not schedule that string to break at 7:42 AM on March 5th.  The gas pump wasn’t designed to spit out  an extra pint of gas on every 4th person who used pump 3 that day.  How2ever, this certainly seemed like bad karma.  

In seeking peace and joy “why me? Is not  a quesation you  want to focus on.  So here’s a little chant  I use to help move from that question to some other questions that  are more productive and uplifting to answer.  

Moving From Why Me to Why Not....

Here’s the  chant..

Why me. Why me 

I  never thought’d  this be

These things are not all possible

I don’t deserve. This don’t you see

But if unfortunate  things to me this day just has  brought

I need to  look real hard at what can happen —what cannot

For maybe  what’s. Now possible is changing quite a lot

So can I change my question from why me into why not?

Anyway I have some other  self-qquestions to address in the next  few days, however for now remember the  dark side usually has a light side...so when the world asks. Why me.. feel free to ask back why not.

More  Soon