Once upon a time when I felt defeated

ONCE UPON A TIME

Once upon a time not that very long ago

I believed  in Santa Claus because all the elders told me so

I understood that life’s not fair yet thought that we might find that neighborhood

Now instead of helping  others move ahead we just insist  on  sorting bad from good

And once bad once one shall always  be and never be someone like me

And once Judged  once then that’s enough

No need to  hear the facts on stuff

We’ve learned  some things on building tribes but some are really building cults

And acting more like  the school  yard bully than 

thoughtful fully grown adults

I think  inside “what  can  I do? as this challenge just expands?”

What is it that’s expected?  I only have two  hands?

I could scream out from the mountain top—or pray  standing idly by

Or  I could  just  surrender —for is this worth a try? 

Then I use my soul for a tiny little  mirror

And the confusion  seems to melt away the path ahead  gets clearer

As long as I have hands to write and words still leave my tongue

My joy will battle every fear and I’ll stay forever young

I’ll gather all the joy I can and  give what I can away

When shall this start you ponder?  It starts right  now today!

Find some Peace  and Joy  Come What May

Playing around

TRYING TO MAKE SENSE OF THE WORLD

Today was a very busy day.  For the first time in a while I was wired and focused  and finally  around 7 PM  I knew it was time to let things go….. to let my mind go play.  I have been experimenting with this concept just to see what  opens up and actually the first thing that roamed  forward was a friend of mine  who I hadn't  seen  in  a while said  on our first  person to person  encounter for a long time….. “let’s Go  Play.”   

So often we are told  “focus on  your passion, stay aligned with your values, plan your work, and work your plan.”  Those things work….and often lead to predictable behaviors and data to prove it.  Fortunately my mind was having little of it by about 8 pM and I was helping my brother from a couple states away set up an email account and my brain was crying “THIS IS NOT PLAYING!”  It is absolutely great to be able to send him things this way now…. and now I let my mind wander free…playtime!

Won’t most of the stuff my brother  and I share be fun things?  Yes… music things….yes…. jokes….yes.   So we were getting  ready to play!    

I let my  mind  drift back and forth in my life and remembered an old Mother Goose book of rhymes. I thought how fun…. and then I thought these poems  were terrifying.  They make  little sense.  One of the things kids love to do is walk on the walls they can because they get a whole  new perspective  on the world—you know instead of the  rear-end or  bellyview on life….

Then there is the brutal   poetry… 

Humpty Dumpty .  Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall…. and then he falls off and two liability lawyers show up  ready to file a neglect suit against the owners of the property…. no wait he has a great  fall… and then all the king’s  horses…. holy  goodness when is the last time  you broke something  and rushed to google  your  local stable to see if there were any ponies who could check out this compound fracture in your lower right leg?     All the king’s horses  tried to put something back together again?  As all the kings men… ?  Well this humpty was an egg-type  thing I guess…. and when have men ever rushed  in to clean up  a kitchen mess?  It may happen more in the modern era.. but back when I  was a kid male wasn’t rushing to clean  up or repair anything  that remotely looked like something that came from a kitchen.  

So then I let my mind drift forward in my play career. A memory of “Jarts” popped in.  These were  steel tipped (very pointed megadarts).   Th  Now these  were gigantic  darts that actually  have a metal point on them so if you arched the trajectory they  would stick in the ground  near a target.  or if  your brother’s arm was getting tired  and a dart slipped a little they might  just lodge in the center of one’s back and hang there from the small piercing they had managed to accomplish.  So that was play too?  

All things considered it was probably  a good thing I gave up  the play mentality  for a while….Oh there were sports and and an occasionally interesting game of twister..but this is sort of a family blog so we’d better stay away from those  references.  

The sad thing is  most of us not only put  our balls and games, and jump ropes in their boxes…we jammed our imaginations in the boxes too…and locked them in the closet or put them in the  garage or somewhere… Well I say bring them back… well not the creepy rhymes or the lawn darts.. but  the games and  the chalk and the  rump ropes etc even the twister as long  as you invite a chiropractor  and let’s play …let’s get out the Lego and the blocks and see what we can build together again.  Our minds need the play.  We need to move things around and reconfigure things and  get a new perspective.  

Okay well here we  go I need to bring  this back around and put Humpty  Dumpty  back together again.. 

nd here’s  my version of the classic rhyme 

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall but then got up to dance where joy filled his feet. 

 And music and dancing then  filled the street 

And all the king’s horses were allowed to  run free and be on the plains where they're  meant to be….

And all the  king’s  men remembered  being a boy

Remembering their hearts were once filled with joy

At last Humpty Fell but it was  not from the wall

It was gently to sleep where  he could recall

Only good dreams of his favorite toy

And a kingdom built upon pure peace and joy.

So sometime tomorrow Remember to play a little.  wad up a piece of paper and shoot the winning shot…moon walk to your car…wink at three strangers because four is pressing your luck  .do something with your opposite hand.  Have  one entire conversation  where you end your response  to someone with a word that rhymes with the last  word they used.. 

The world can be a fascinating  playground… explore it tomorrow.  Add a little piece of  peace and joy….but stay away fromMother Goose where kids are falling down from the plague and  a very well known bridge is falling down and kids are forced to sing about this?  Strange beings we are?

Create Your Own "Day"

CREATE YOUR OWN DAY

Sort of late in the evening (after the  Queen Movie which I am referring  to it by because I can’t spell the real title this early in the morning—-or anytime). I did a check of my social media eempire LOL.  You know my blogs,a quick look at twitter, and Facebook.

Well one of the marvelous  people who belong to “don’t Keep Your Day Job (a Facebook group)  has declared  tomorrow  as “International Sing in Public Day.”  

I know there are national holidays and several of these “international Days popping up all the time.  Like two or three Mondays ago was National Margarita  day and there was just the International Women’s  Day.   

I absolutely  believe  in ALL of these days.  I do want to apply to be on the selection committee because I think we are celebrating  some things too much and some too little.  For example  I would support  the International Day of laughing at yourself first thing in the morning when you look in the mirror day”,  and The National  Day of licking the cake batter  spoon or beater day.  I would  promote the  semi0annual  “give a hug to the person who just leaned over to tie their shoe and the string broke day.’  

Okay  back to the top.  This person who promoted her own day  is/was  a genius… first singing in public even if it’s  in your car with the window rolled down just  a  little sounds like a great way to bring some peace and joy into the world.  If you are a songwriter maybe you could think up just one new verse for tomorrow and post it to  youtube  or Facebook.

As for today make a list of “days” you’d like to celebrate and let’s see if everyday  can become the “intergalactic Day of Personal Peace and Joy featuring (insert your day).

Today  in my mind it is the National Day of getting my crap together  after being gone last week day…”  I might as well celebrate  the things I am doing no matter what they may be in the moment.

Okay get to work figuring out your  National or International Day and let’s share!!!!Hey 

Work rest and peace and joy

SOME WORDS ABOUT WORK ON THE DAY OF REST

In some creeds (not  so much in the retail religions  I’ve  noted) one day of the week has been  designated as the “day of rest.”   I’ve also  heard sayings like  “there’s no rest for the wicked.”  Anyway, today I thought I would share some thoughts on “work.”  

Recent studies show that less  than half  of all employees today are  “fully engaged” in their  current  employment.  That is sad  in many ways and I could write 20 entries  on this topic, however,  I thought maybe I’d just pull some  old thoughts together write about choosing work, on how work chooses  you, and on the odd paths  we find ourselves on from time to time.

Right now, I am transitioning from one part of my work life to another.  It happens a lot these days and for people  who have a deep work/life/identity connection the transition can be a stressful and scary process….therefore  here’s  some ways to bring some peace and joy into either  your  current  work effort or those to come in your journey.

Thirty years ago—that’s before the internet so I’m talking ancient history, I was an instructor  for a class called “Making a Vocational/Educational  Choice.”  This course was  offered at a major  Midwest University and students from Freshmen to Seniors could enroll.  I won’t  go through  all the details, but the course was a fascinating study in  student development and fear of the unknown.  Students had dreams or were looking for them.  They  had  plans and Plan B’s  and as far as being prepared for the work world they covered the entire spectrum from preschooler to  ultra professional.  

After teaching the course a few times and learning of the initial work efforts of some of my  former students I developed a great sense of humor regarding the world of work and  this is the wisdom  I gathered then.

Some of  my brightest chemistry  students didn’t go out  into the  world  and find  cures for the illnesses of the day.  Instead they  spent time  making mouth wash just a little more  wintery fresh.  Some of the graphic artists and other “serious artists  found themselves in what one of them called  the “bowels of hell.”  One of them was  working as a creator of designs  to adorn  paper plates, napkins, and the printed masterpieces that used to be found on  many kinds of toilet  paper.  I received  a note from one  of these students who asked…..”One of my designs just got turned down for 2-ply toilet paper—can  you tell me how to get inspired about  work tomorrow?  I gave him a call and  we had a short conversation and I asked if this was the worst day of his life?  He said …..”well it was till I ran into Ryan.”  I said did  Ryan remind  you that you were still using  your skills to make a living?  He said —“hell no….Ryan works in the urinal cake sector and just  got  one of his  chemical formulas  rejected —not because it wasn’t effective but because it  didn’t  really match  the concept of pure spring freshness the company was looking for.”  Well I don’t know where either  of these people ended  up… I hope in a happy places.,..but what  it taught me  was money  couldn’t talk to my soul at that point in my career and I am grateful for that.  

Now which  is always the only time there is…. I am looking at  a few work options and money might have a little more pull in my decision making, however, learning and serving, and when  possible teaching (giving back what you have  learned)are my priorities   Helping  people  have  more choices in life and taking responsibility  for those  choices is critical.  Will things still happen because of chance in careers and work?  Well I hope so—-and I hope I always  will have the courage  to learn and serve some more.  

Okay… enough of that I am going to end with a little rhyme that hit me  on the train ride I took the other day.

May  your  work life bring you closer 

to knowing  your best self

Be that  putting letters  in a box or canned peas upon a shelf

Before your  work life’s over  you’ll  have gaps and stops and turns

But the value of a person never equals what  one earns

Sometimes  you’ll work to live and sometimes  you’ll live to work

For a boss who is a princess, a jester,  or a jerk

Work days last  eternities and vacation days are brief

You’ll reach  some lofty goals and  smile  but sometimes  think “good grief”

Some  days you will be calm and others you’ll be boiling

I hope you get a chance to serve some others  with  your toiling

Remember always that you’re worthy and that it’s your gifts you’ll employ

Then wherever on the journey you may be  there can be found  peace and joy

With gratitude for the lessons I’ve learned and  the grace to  learn  more… .  I wish all the best adventures in the work lives you’ll explore

And if this job does not quite fit  wipe the dust  off— go ahead and  try  one  more …

Do your best to  always  know your  soul keeps  track—the bank  does not  keep score

Have a great day of rest..

St. Patrick's Day Peace and Joy

I'm  promising  nothing sublime
But I won't  take too much of  your  Time
Since my mind's growing  dimmer quick
I'm just writing  this limerick 
So I hope you enjoy this small rhyme

First sit quietly  for just a while
Put  some happy thoughts all in a pile
drop all that are hateful
Highlight all that are grateful
Then  go out into the world with a smile


So it's the day for  shamrocks and all
for Leprechauns  tiny and tall
Make  your day  both lovely and risky
That's  why the good lord gave  us this whiskey

And let his grace upon  all of us fall

How to Cope With Writer's Block

Leaping Over Writer's Block

Well here you sit with writer's bloc

Your brain's a mess and your pen won't talk

Your keyboard waits and laughs quiet silently

You'd like to take  and throw it violently

Yesterday the thoughts were flowing 

Paragraphs and word  count growing

So what happened when you  went to sleep

Did demons into your  mind creep?

Did  Shakespeare  have these  Moments Too

Did Hemingway say  "hell I'm through?" 

Did tthe Bronte sisters say let's just go shopping and 

Did Steinbeck say 'let's all go bar hopping?

So how  does a poor soul like me then cope? 

I focus on  one  happy thought to use'

And then put o my confy shoes- because if my feet can't breathe ,

There would be no  muse.  

Then I take that concept and try to find all rhymes

To which  it might connect at least a couple times

Then I dream of childhood days my buddy Dr. Seuss

And start weaving words in patterns and some completely loose

Before I know it words are springing  from my mind

You'd be surprised  about the ideas that I find

The train of words that  rumbles through seems to go  on and on

The writer's block that once  was there is now completely gone

The product that i soon have is a semi-poem draft

But as we all know the first one is the hardest of our craft.

This method rarely fails me so I'm passing it to you

Have fun  with  "red fish, blue fish, the grinch, green eggs and ham

They'll get you out of  nearly every language jam

This was  my helpful  hint to bring  peace and joy  to mind

If you discover others tell me what  you find.  

A difference between a trip and a journey

So on a trip you watch the map  and you check the miles  you cover

On a Journey you check the world out  to see what you'll discover.  

On a  trip  you  worry more about  the starts and where it ends While on a journey  you concern yourself with new sites and old friends.... —Or old sites and new  friends if it's what the journey brings It's not about the t-shirts  that prove that you did things.

On a trip you often take a plane so you can get there fast 

Except through TSA  where the fun can last and last 

As you remove your belt and shoes and put them in a bin then stand and raise your  arms and let the search begin

Then they put  you in a tube  and shoot you through the sky If it all works  you get  there fast and if not you'll just die

On a plane  your trip can be ok or a misery complete 

If you happen to get assigned the dreaded middle seat

For on one side theres the one who'll talk your ear off like a fool 

and on the other side the one who coats your sleeve with drool

But  some plane rides are not all that bad and sometimes time is key 

So I'll buckle in  and takeoff 

To get where I must be.  

Just remember if you're flying and  you see on-coming boats 

Just pull off your seat supposedly it floats

Next week I'll take the train with whatever speed it lacks

They have seats that are  comfy  and they rarely  jump the tracks

And you can see the world passing by see some buildings see some faces

And imagine  what has happened  in all these rural places.  How many cows have crossed this roadHow many dear have dodged near misses

H

ow many teenage  couples  have drank  tonics and fumbled through first kisses.   

You see places from the train  that you just don't see every day.  I suspect to take a journey tis' my favorite way

I don't mind  a car or a pick up truck Till a traffic jam and then you're stuck

And then inside I scream oh.......

And wish that I'd  had different luck

In the end I guess it's about control

Over how things fly or how they roll

So if I had the time I'd nearly always bike and stop as often as I'd like

Or even use my feet to hike and wave at every  girl and boy

On my daily little journey— the one towards peace and Joy

WHOINVENTED DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME?

DDAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME?

WHAT A CONCEPT!!!

Look at your phone.... it probably has the right time on it and maybe your computer.... but your  microwave, stove, and any of those old clocks that  have numbers and those little  pointy things that go around and around if you put batteries  in  it from time to time are all out of synch with reality this morning.  Well maybe... I have never really understood this daylights savings time.  Yes.. I know was thing  Benny F --Oh you know  the kite flying bifocal guy who went overseas during revolutionary time and had himself a good old time-- invented the idea to help farmers by having their kids home from school to work while it was still light during planting season... You know  just another way to get a return on your investment with kids LOL.   So I know conceptually where it comes from.  The question is about the "saving time"  part.  I don't  know what that means.  The seconds still tick away like that annoying  clock  on 60 minutes and thousands of time still fall through  your personal  hour glass.... so someone please explain this to me.

How exactly or where  exactly  do you save time.  I've never seen the "First National Bank "Time Savings"  account Or The Jefferson County Time Savings and Loan or Even the 45Second Community Credit  Union.  

Even if you could save time what would  you save it in?  Well I'm not exactly sure how much space time  takes up but  Einstein (sp)  had a space/time formula maybeI should look  it up.  Myabe you can save  this time in a shoebox or  if you really save a lot of time maybe you need a big rubbermaid  tub?  I know one thing  for sure  you cannot save tin any Tupperware  container because  it would take you so long to find the right lid (if it even exists)  that all the time you were  saving would now be lost while looking for the lid.  

But  on the other hand maybe people really do believe they can save time.  They  like to go through the self-check out at many stores.  Let'tslook at that a second.  How many times a week do you go through  the U-scan or whatever it's called at your local stores?  I bet  you go through  twice maybe three times a week tops.  Now on the other had you have a usually friendly cashier standing there who  checks people out thousands of times  a week--week after week.  Do you really think you are faster at this than they are?  Let's get real.  Oh and even if you save all that check out time how do you know  that you aren't going to get into your car and get to the stop light just as it turns red and then  you wait for the minutes you just saved--nice work.  

Okay.. I think I've  beaten that dead horse....there's a different concept--quit beating horses dead or alive..

No what I want to talk about  now is not the time  you have  to save---but the time you have to spend (or use).  No matter what time your clock says or how many  you move the hands of it--you only get a certain amount of  time to spend on this  planet (or maybe another planet someday) and so don't worry  so much about how  you save it-worry about how you give it away.  Do you give it to efforts that you believe will make things better  for others?  Do you give  your time to teaching other folks how t do things they want to learn?  Do you spend time thinking about how  to make someone smile everyday?  In short, do you try to bring  a little more peace and joy into the time we have?  So that's most of what I have to say  about this "savings time" except for this little rhyme.

I'm going to do my damn best to die empty 

which means  I'd given all I had to give

For how long I stick around is not for me to know

My concern my friends is how I choose to live

I'll  use the gifts  I have  to do some hard things

And from time to time each  of you I shall annoy

But with every trip around the sun  that this old life brings

I'll be grateful  and seek some peace and joy. 

space is NOT the Final Frontier

Space-while Amazing and a place where we can "boldly go where no one has gone before..."  is something to  think about and possibly  a place to live one day--but don't we live in space right now?   Oh, you say you mean outer space... well point well taken, however, let's introduce a  different  context and see what launches  so to speak.

When (and  notice I didn't say "IF"  we check all the scientific  boxes and  wind up living on  some other rock in the sky we will do one thing for certain.... take us with us.  So I submit for your approval (twighlight zone reference I know)we will still have the final frontier to explore---that "inner" space" called our soul.  Okay, if you need to stick to biology because of your  beliefs thats okay and if you make a mind/soul distinction that's okay too.  The point  is we still have  so much to discover about the mysteries that are us that going somewhere else can only play second fiddle to the journey it will take  to truly understand what  collection of cells and meanings make up the human spirit.

The good news is... evolution--not in the biological  or religious context--I don't have a million pages to present all the  facets of that grand debate.  No what I'm  talking about in evolution is  in the basic  pattern of human living and making sense of themselves in the world.  So we were  hunter-gatherers, and then farmers, and then we built a lot of machines to do stuff and that takes us to the industrial revolution.  Wouldn't I make a fine world history  instructor?  In one sentence I'm already  up to about two centuries ago.  Then not so long  ago we entered the "information age."  That's where  many folks  still imagine we are and our brain is the ultimate  computer (sometimes assisted by Google)) .. however, I would argue otherwise.  We are in the evolution of turning all this information into  knowledge and then into wisdom and finally into meaning.... and that is the final  frontier.  Right now we are  still producing  information at a pace never before imagined possible so converting that into  usable knowledge is a daunting task and then making applicable and morally relevant which is the development of wisdom is still only in its infancy.


Oh and that's where Peace andJoy come in.

You see Finding Peace and Joy is in the "meaning" age which evolution-wise (which English language-wise is a made up thing but if you 're  still reading  I promise we're near the end.   For a while now people have preached that it is not  what happens  in life --it's what  you make of it.  That's the meaning part right?

These folks are pretty much on target.

So.. here's where I get to the point of this whole thing.

We have nab explorers spirit in us... we seek  new places  and we are willing to travel  a long way to find them.  We  solve  difficult math problems and  build new machines and i for one applaud  all of that and yet I applaud  even more those who sometimes  sit  quietly  and explore all the information they have gathered and turn it into wisdom (little pieces of  information  that might be applied) and then  go where few  people try to go... taking that wisdom and  going to a place where they own the  meaning it has for them.  We  often sit alone and  make that journey.  I am proposing  that more of us make our journey at least a little public with our peace and joy network and go on this meaning  journey together from time to time.  We  might not  end up on the same planet, but we may all learn something  about the process of seeking peace and joy.  Yes I'm saying take the inner journey with each other and be glad where  it takes you because you have boldly dared to go where few  have gone before.... and who knows  many  you'll meet intelligent life out there or maybe  even more  important  you'll meet a beautiful being inside.



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As our fried mr. Spoc would say   Live  long and Prosper.  )

Because today was the day for singing not typing

 Some days I just sit and think with my guitar



 Since today was one of those that’s what you get for the peace and joy blog  A song about the blog enjoy it and thank you all for going on the journey of the blog so far
 Since it loads easiest as a video that’s what I loaded up the images are random much like the thoughts in the blog you know have a great day

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Keeping Water in the Jar...Feeding and Using Your Peace and Joy Network

Keeping Something In the Jar
Feeding and Using Your Peace and Joy Network


Since assumptions nearly always get me  in trouble....

Let's  review  the other two parts  of this three part  idea about  a "Peace and Joy Network.

In the beginning there was (if and but)  It is hard to build a network  when a person seeks to make  connections with a lot of "if" thoughts.  For a long time in my life i started out

thinking about people and circumstances in terms of "if/then' and that instantly  put an obligation  or condition on a relationship before it could ever be explored.  I'm certain I missed  a  chance of growing some great  friendships  that way and  lost opportunities to learn about my gifts by  not  opening the door to see how I might  serve  someone else.  Now let's look at  the other little word "but."  It slams doors and discounts the ideas of others and what's really tricky about it in the real world many people use it  thinking  they are keeping  you  from making a mistake.   In reality  the next time   you want to use the word... start your sentence with  "because I  know I'm smarter than you --(insert the idea someone just  offered )  won't  work.  Then see if that helps you grow a supportive  peace and joy network.
Next  the topic of being  still was highlighted.  You can learn a lot  by just watching.  You can see how the pieces of your  growing puzzle  might fit together and  how to make sure  you are looking for a network or a tribe not looking to be the guru or  a leader of disciples.  
Which brings us to  this  f"final" section.  You  can build a strong network and feel great  about it.  There is nothing wrong  with that.  However your network is much like a  jar full of water (or substitute whatever ) you cannot take from it infinitely without adding  to it by  doing what I think are two  critical things.  Communicating with and about the other  members in a positive way.  That  means  not comparing the members in your group with each other  and not worrying about who  you  are going to give more or less to in terms of support.  That kind of stuff will work itself out depending on who  has gifts to offer when and who  has needs when.  Let the universe worry about those things.  Remember that no one can do everything in your  network and that everyone is likely to be able to add something.  The ability to add something may be just what one of the members of the network needs most right now.  Second--fail.  What? Every now and then take a risk with your  network or  at least  one or two of the  members and  fail with them... We all learn through  taking a wrong road or two and it sure is nice when  others are there to  help you all stand up again.  

It is time for  me to wrap this up for now.  In many ways every post in this blog is about  my peace and joy  network.   Many of you have helped fill my jar a bit over the past few  months....many  have been doing it for years...sometimes a very patient  drop  at a time.  I am grateful to know all of you and  now whatever is in your  cup... raise it in a toast for  all the great things we have  shared and  for all the  great adventures  yet to happen... and of  course  Find some Peace  & Joy Come What  May

Building a Peace & Joy Network "Standing" "Still"A Park Bench is Often a Good Place to Be Still

A Place to be sti

A Place to Be Still

Well  a couple days ago I started the  little bit of advice on how to build a peace  and joy  network.  

Words  or thoughts are often the largest  barriers  to building the network.  They are very small words but (remember what I said about but?)  Okay they are short words and they are  "if" and "but.

If is dangerous becauseit opens a door  and it also  buts on a lot of conditions to connecting with others.  But  on the other hand is the "dis the "Walmart"  of all words.  What do i  mean?  Anything  that happens to come before  "but" is likely to be discounted and ignored just like your downtown shoe store and it will soon become apparent the user of the word didn't really care which ideas it put out of business.  So in terms of building  anything  "if" and "But"  are just sort of trap words that might  not fit into the thinking or talking that goes into building a peace and joy  support  network.

Now that  the obligatory framing is done for this  continuation (or  for some  a little more  blah, blah, blah) here's  part Two

Sometimes building a network requires  being still.  

Let's  say  you  have brought a few people together  and you consider them  valuable parts of your network--you owe them the chance to  see if they are parts of each other's  network as well.  If so that's  a bonus.  You  will be able to get support from both of those folks without becoming a translator  or facilitator.  You won't always have to be  holding up your whole network and sometimes that  is extremely helpful.  Fortunately  often times it only takes  sitting still in a group  to see  whether you will have to facilitate or  just surf the waves of support as they come along.  

In addition to being able to observe others-being still allows you time to pray or meditateor do whatever you do to calm your mind and bring it back to attention.  

Being still for just a moment  sometimes lets' you  see  more options than  you might have  if you just went forward  actively building a network.  

Now that is not to say sit still forever.... A few  kind souls  will happen upon your way just by "accident."  However... after sitting still a bit it will come down to "feeding and exercising your network.   That is the final  part of  this trilogy and unless  one of my other favorite authors  inspires me otherwise look for it tomorrow.  

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One last thing ... one of my peace & Joy members has a birthday today and I can hardly go without  acknowledging it so  here's little video