Experimenting with new choices

CHOOSE A TIME AND PICK A TARGET

So who has absolutely nothing  to complain about?  Raise your  hand please…….. 

Oh yes… I know  I can’t see your hands unless this was Skype or YouTube Live….and since I’m  not so good at  seeing anyway  if you raised  your hand you are likely  just proving one of three things.  1. You don’t wear deodorant and their  are some reasons  why some people don’t  so don’t  get all judgmental—2. you wear deodorant —or  you are just showing off.  

The reality is that  everybody probably  has  something to  complain about.  

However—yes you can put  your  hands down—if you have a thing or two  that gets under your skin either  daily or  have a lot of little irritations (that’s me)—You know like how it takes  both hands to apply a band-aid but when you are applying  one to someplace  on one of your  hands you really only have one hand  to do it with…  

Okay  enough of this…here’s my  point.  A couple of days ago I noticed that I complained  about the same thing to  three people.  Now they listened politely and  provided empathy but none of them were the root of the complaint and I knew from the start none of them could create a solution.  IJUST WANTED TOCOMPLAIN.  some may call that venting and sometimes it is…bhowever when it’s three times  in the same day… perhaps you’re just saying I’m a negative person today?   

So now raise  your hand if you like to be around negative persons all day?  Not many hands I see…

So  here’s my “peace and joy” experiment.

From now on I’m going to pick a time in the day when I stop complaining completely…. and I’m going to “vent” to no more than two people about any given thing because they probably feel like targets whether that’s what  you intended.  

Yep.. I think that is an experiment worth  doing… and if you are going to give me something to complain about please make sure you offend me during the specified  complaining time for that day.  Also please feel free to ask—“are  you sure I’m eh right target for  this particular complaint?”  After all, I don’t  want to waste  one of my two venting on the wrong target.  

Yes there is a note of sarcasm there…but I’m serious about  setting a time  on the clock and promising  your tribe you are not going to complain after the appointed hour… and then try to pick the target of your complaining to a person who  might help  you think more about solutions than cheering along with your  reason for complaining…but most of all limit the times  you tell the story because then the complaint  is no longer  the  thing that gets remembered… it is that  YOU  get remembered as the one who complains about (insert a topic)  all the time.  

anyway before   you start complaining that I have rambled  on longer than needed.  My Complain cut off time today is 3:30 this afternoon Eastern Standard Time.  

and you are not one of my targets…but if you want to be placed  on the  target list for a date in the near future let me know….because  your business is important to us and  due to  unusually high call volume  your wait  time could be extended.